The Woman Who Leads Herself

This season has been about what it really takes to make epic shit happen in our lives, all the work, commitment, decision, and the energy of being ALL IN.

To finish out Season 3, this episode is all about leading ourselves, trusting ourselves, and really stepping up to be a leader. All the gurus and coaches out there are owning their way, but that may not be YOUR way. 

As always, I truly appreciate you being here with me!

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Transcript

Tatiana Amico: 1:18

Hello? Hello, this is the last episode of this season. Whew. Damn. This was some good shit. Huh? I have sad that this season has been all about no BIS manifesting, right? Like the real, or really goes down. What's really necessary to. To make like epic shit happened in our lives and for our businesses and to have what we truly desire. And this takes work right. It's unsexy work many times, but it takes work. It takes commitment. It takes a decision. It takes the energy of being all in. This is what I desire. I'm making it happen no matter what. Being able to be the woman who does this stuff. And again, it's not easy. I will never say that it easy. It does take work to be able to do the things that most aren't doing and to. Go off into new territory, right? Like unchartered territory where you've never been, I had a client say to me yesterday, she's doing something new. She's like, why is this? Like, why is this so hard for me right now? I'm like, because you've never done it before. You've never done it before. So it's not just going to be this like breezy thing. Right. It does become effortless once you've embodied and mastered and all of that. But then like I've said in previous episodes, we don't just stop there. We keep going. So I hope that you've really enjoyed the season and all the seasons of own it. Please make sure to give me some love on the socials, share about it. If you haven't reviewed the podcast yet. Definitely do that. And just thank you so much for listening and. Sharing and all the things I'm so freaking grateful for you. So let's end this season off with a fricking bang. I was chatting with a soul client yesterday who found me. We were it's funny. Cause we were like, how did we even connect? Like how did you find just like, I'm not really sure, but obviously she, she had aligned to whatever the hell I was saying. Somehow found me. I think it was on Instagram. She was in my world for a bit. She started listening to the podcast. In fact, she told me she was like, she just started bingeing the podcast. Like she would go for walks and just listen and listen and listen. She was really feeling everything that I was sharing. And just a few months, after coming into my world, she jumped into my year long, larger investment. Mastermind group mentorship. And I'm sharing this with you because this episode is really going to be about leading ourselves, listening to ourselves, like really deciding to step up and be a leader, step up and be a leader. And I'm here for the women that are the game changers, the leaders desiring to create new fricking paradigm. Creating shifts in this world, the ripple effect that I always talk about. And in order to do this, we have to step up and be able to lead ourselves. So there was no like lower and lower price offer for her to join. This is it. This is all I had. This is all that I had available when she reached out to me and. I again, I'm sharing this because lately I've, I've been working with a lot of clients that are now getting, like, making some big moves, putting out some new offers, just like deciding this is it. I'm going all in, stepping up, showing up all of that. And I'm finding an actually in the past, this has been the case as well, that so many have been listening to the outside noise around them, of what they should be doing. Like this is what you have to do in order to be successful. And in order to sell your offers and in order to have the launch and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right. There's a shit ton out there. Let's be real because every coach guru expert that is sharing this stuff, they're owning their own. Right, which is awesome. It's awesome. But it's their way, and it may not be your way. Right. And it's cool to learn and gain knowledge and all of that, but it's more important to really be able to be the woman that listens to herself. And trust herself and believes in herself and the energy that, that brings that. I know that being me showing up as me owning what I do, owning who I am, that's what fricking works. So it's like blinders on, not what some guru said, not this is how it should be, but being able to look at their own way, look at their own. And again, I'm having this come up with a lot of clients where it's like, this is what I really want to do, but is this going to work? Because so-and-so said that I should have, I should have a lower investment offer in order to get people through the door or then some other, you know, coaches saying, no, I should have a year long thing. That's$10,000. Right? We got to listen to ourselves and what are we available for? What can we hold space for? What can we really put out there fully owning it in our power? And this takes work to do, and it takes work to be able to recognize what it really is for you. And that, listen, this is huge. We're going to grow. We're going to evolve. We're going to change things up, but let's love the frickin ride. Where it's like, I'm listening to myself again. I'm not doing things because someone else said, this is the way in this house. I have to do it. It's like, no, this is what I want to do. And I'm going to do it this way and it's going to work. Of course. So this is the work that I do with my clients is to help them let go of the condition. And having to follow others ways and listen, this is with everything in life, not just with business, this is everything like, this is what I'm all about here. So again, letting go of this conditioning, having to follow others ways and instead unlocking what and how their way is and be the woman who is fully. Because it's, when you are able to get fully behind what you want and how you want to do it, who you want to work with, your thing, your offer, what makes you the shit right? Again, that's what works. So it doesn't matter if you just started. It doesn't matter if you've been in the game for years and years and years, it doesn't matter what your audience size is. Like. You get to decide. You decide, and from there you make the moves and all that outside noise can be sneaky. It can be so sneaky trying to come back in. So the work is to continue to be able to listen to yourself and to trust yourself, like, am I doing this because I heard it somewhere or I'm being blinded by the way, others do things and think that I have to do that as well. Or is. MI MI capital M capitally, bold underlined line stars and shit coming out of it, right. Being the woman who just knows and can show up with certainty in who she is and what she offers. And again, there's a lot of work here. It's unraveling deprogramming, being able to really tap into self into your intuition, turning yourself. Ah, Showing up showing up and knowing you are worthy no matter what, and knowing you are worthy, no matter what, knowing that you are enough and being able to rise back up, because sometimes that ego wins had frickin ego. Right. But then you remember who you are. And again, this is the work and I know this work I've done this work. I do this work. I come from being so afraid to even charge$25 for a grocery store tour, where I would be with someone for like three hours. Oh my gosh. They having soul aligned clients that are finding me and investing five figures plus in themselves. It's energetics, it's the energetics around leadership. So again, this is the work that we do together when you're in my world. So you be the woman who is able to build a business and life that you actually love. So it's not looking outside of you. It's not buying all the new programs or coach hopping because the shiny objects and they must have all the answers. If I don't have this yet, this thing that I want, maybe they do, maybe they do. Maybe they do. Maybe they do let me hop, hop out. I see this all the time. And I used to do this too. Right. Or comparing to others, thinking you have to be like them to be successful and this could be conscious or unconscious. And this is something that I'm super fired up about all of a sudden it's like not posting other people's stuff instead of your. You know, sharing your own beliefs, your thoughts, your experiences, because this is what your people want. They want you. And I've just been seeing so many women constantly sharing other people's shit. Other people's quotes, other people's offers all the time and not even their own, got to own your stuff. Got up, own your stuff. And again, this is the worst. And I've done all of that. I know what it feels like to shrink, to shrink back to not feel good enough to pull back your power, afraid of being too much afraid of maybe being wrong or losing people. I can look back and see when I couldn't even imagine anyone caring about what I had to do. Or thinking that what I had to say wasn't enough or that I was wrong. So I hid behind others and I could see it. I look at my memories from my past, from my posts and stuff. I was sharing other people's stuff all the time. And you know what? I can even see this in my book. And I've, I've actually have had to do a lot of work around my book because of. I, I feel like I don't even want to really share about it. And now I'm realizing that it's this, because I was hiding, I was lacking confidence. I was lacking confidence in me and I'm like, as much as a lot of it is my story and everything else. That's not, it's not me. It's not fully. And I'm grateful and I'm proud of myself and damn the woman I became because of that. Right. Everything is happening for me, but still I knew I could feel that I was hiding and I've actually had to do a lot of like grief work around that and forgiveness to myself, like love on myself, give myself props for it all. And then also recognizing lists, like looking in hindsight, gaining the wisdom, extracting the wisdom that wise women. So until I decided I'm a leader, I'm the one I know. I trust myself. I am enough and my truth is not wrong. This work around. This is super important. I, if I hadn't have done this, if I don't continue to do it, I wouldn't be doing this podcast. I wouldn't be sharing, you know, all, all across like social media. There there's so much work involved in this, and it's not just some strategy cause how many people are given the strategy. And I still don't see them showing up. I still years later don't see them show. So this is the work and the clients that I have fricking collapsing time around this. Like the one that I shared, where when I first started seeing her just a few months in and what she has done, because she has tapped in, she has done the work. She has shown up. She's literally unleashed gifts inside of her that like she it's blowing my mind and this is happening with all of my clients. Of course. Cause this is the work that we do. But then for her to share these things that in the past, she was like, I thought I was crazy, like, and listen to me and dealing with people that are, you know, mean the ha you know, the judgments and everything else, being able to get through that in order to share your truth, to own your truth. Right. So I also want to say this, sometimes this still comes up for me in unexpected ways. Listen, if you've been listening to me for a while, you know, my jam has been boxing. Like, I feel like I talk about it all the time, but man, when you find something that is your jam. And, and just so much comes through because of it. It's just the coolest thing ever. So anyway, the other day I was in the class and one of the trainers, the coaches was like, I would love to see you in the ring with this other girl. And I was like, no, I won't do that. I won't go in the ring. And I found myself like, like to spar, right. And I found myself, the next thing that came out of my mouth was because I'm afraid to hurt someone. Because I'm afraid to hurt someone. And I kept like, literally, like just creating these, like limitations around this thing where I'm like, I'm afraid to hurt someone, so I'm not going to do it. And Bubba, Bubba, and they kept saying, we'll find them, we'll put you on with a guy. And I'm like, no, I still, I don't want to hurt anyone, blah, blah, blah. And then I start, you know, I left. And this is what can happen. Sometimes something happens for us. We're given this opportunity because if I see that I want to show up and I want to grow and I want to make even more impact. We're going to be given what we need in order to be come. The woman that does this. And I'll now notice when I'm given these opportunities. This was one of those, I didn't think anything of it, but then later on, I'm like, holy crap. I am afraid. To really own my power and use my power because I'm afraid that I might hurt someone and then I'm going to lose them. And then I might potentially lose something that I love or that I love to do. So that was like a massive breakthrough that I still will hold back. I will still hold back. I'll still hold back from being, I'm afraid to be too much. I'm afraid to shine too bright. I'm afraid that, oh my gosh. If I do that, people won't like me and I'll lose people and I'll be abandoned and Bubba, Bubba, because I still have that little girl coming in from back in grammar school, when that happened. Right. So it's like, I thought I was good. And then it shows up again in an unexpected way and it's like, okay, well you just have a little bit more work to do here. It's all good. You want to go to another level again? I'm B being given the opportunity to get to work on something that I need to work on in order to get to that next level. That was like a massive breakthrough. It led to even more like more and more and more came from that. And I've been integrating that and right, so that I integrate and embody that and master that. So that I can really show up at a whole new next level way. Now in January of this year, I'm just realizing this. Now, as I'm saying this in January of this year, I sat in intention to be even more me to show up more bold. And in order for me to do that, I have to own my fricking power and I can not be afraid to hurt someone. And I need to trust that when people come into my world, when they come into my space, whether that be to listen to my podcast, to read my things, to. Be a client of mine that they are making the empowered decision to do. So they are deciding to rise up. They see me as an inspiration. I'm showing what's possible. They make the decision to join, to show up, to be that woman it's on them. They're making the empowered decision. It's not on me, but I show up and I do the work that I'm here to do in my power. Like my brain exploding all over the place. Right. This is huge. So it is my mission to guide you and to support you the impact making woman to do this, to own your truth, to be the leader who is inside of you and wants to come out and who wants to play full out when you honor your truth, when you are in your authentic power. Which is a process that I teach my clients. You see more, you are available for more. You are able to hold more space for others. You become resilient. You build your capacity, you feel safe as you go for more. As you go for. And if you really want to be making that impact, that deeper impact on others, this doesn't necessarily mean big, big numbers everywhere, but even just making deeper, bigger impact in other's lives. We have to be able to do all of this. So. Collapsing time around being able to get through it all, to be able to make the bigger moves. Like I used to be paralyzed for weeks when something would come up when I was triggered like that. What I just told you with the boxing thing, I would have been paralyzed. I wouldn't, I wouldn't know why I actually reached out to my mentor, my coach. And I was like, I had a moment where I could feel myself. I just wanted to like crawl up into a ball and. I wanted to curl up into a ball and hide. I felt that I was like, why is it? I started asking myself these powerful questions and I was able to move through that, like within I'm pretty sure it was within like a half an hour to an hour, listen before it would have been weeks. And I wouldn't have even known why. And it would have stayed in me because I didn't know. This is what happens when we get to work on this. When we have the outside support, when we have someone helping us through it, that can see the blind spots, the gaps that we may not see, and damn, I'm grateful for that. So being able to move through it faster, and that's ultimately how we make the results happen faster. So the leader, your presence. Your presence, who you be on and off the stage, being able to lead yourself, doing that unsexy work, to be able to lead others on a whole new level. This is who I'm speaking to the woman who desires this, that is the woman who I desire to work with. You desire to be a conscious leader and embodied leader, a new paradigm creator, leaving potent ripple effects, wherever you go, wherever you go. And it's like, I'm doing. This worked for me first, I'm showing up for my dreams for my desires, for my mission for me. And I'm showing up in my power and I'm owning who I am and I'm owning what I do. And I'm doing this for myself first, but I also know the impact that it has on others and that others will feel. I have to, I have to share another boxing story. Cause I thought that this was so cool. And it now I'm now I'm like, it's like full circle for a second here. So I actually received a message from last week. I received a message from one of the other ladies that that box is with me. And she's like, just so you know, I had to literally stop my round of boxing when you were in the. To watch you and to see you and to see you like killing it. That's not what she said, but that's what I'm taking from this country to watch me kill it. Right. And as I think about it, I'm like, this is what it is. This is what it's about showing up in our power. Because others can feel that they are inspired by that. It does something to them. It moves them. We are here to create shifts in others to ultimately create that ripple effect. Right. So be the woman that shows up full on so that others feel it. And so we can help others move to make their own moves. So we're showing show. Showing what is possible. So how do you show others after the FDA? Listen to this, take a moment and riff on this. Whether, you know, you just speak it out, maybe, you know, record into your phone or write it out, journal it out, let it all out. Create a statement around this. I'm going to share mine. I show we get to. I shall we get to have the big dreams and desires and go after them. I show we get to put ourselves first and how that serves everyone else far greater than if we do not. I show we do not deny ourself or our truth honoring ourselves, being in integrity with our desires and all the abundance that comes from. We women, we are such powerful creators, creating life, creating visions that change the world, leading myself in this. So others see paving a new path to have women own this all and go after what they are called to while living a limitless, extraordinary life and showing others what is possible for them. Feeling this ready to be a limitless leader, owning who you are, sharing your gifts and making big impact in this world and get paid, reach out and let's make those moves. Thanks again for listening and see you next season.